Wow...what a day! I feel so lost and like a horrible mother. I want so badly for my kids to be happy and confident. I know they have to grow up and make mistakes on their own but what do you do when your just turned 18 year old daughter is making huge mistakes and you can't get her to see that? Do you just sit back and watch and then be there for her when everything comes crashing down?
She is such a smart, beautiful young lady with so much going for her. So why does she like the "bad boys"? The ones that lie and cheat and have no future. Why can't she understand that it's okay to not have a guy around all the time. I thought we raised our kids to be strong independent people, but she seems to have to have a guy all the time, even if it's a low life. What makes her attracted to that type of person? Especially when there are good guys that like her. Why would she pick a cheater with no job over a good guy in college, with a job? I realize you can't make your heart feel something it doesn't, but does she think so little of herself that she feels that's all she deserves? I hope to god I didn't ruin her self esteem when she was little. I think back to when she was younger and we had a rocky relationship for a long time, but it had gotten so much better. But did I put her down or somehow make her feel inferior to her sisters? God I hope not!
I can't stand to have this guy in my house, I can't even be nice to him...they dated one week and he cheated on her! During the first week of datin0g aren't you supposed to be so into that new relationship that you wouldn't even look at someone else? She broke up with him and wouldn't talk to him for several weeks, but he weaseled his way back into her life. Now she's making excuses for him...he was drunk otherwise he would have never done it. And he doesn't drink now, yeah right...till the next time.
I'm afraid I'm losing her...I can't act like I accept him or even stand the sight of him, but if I don't I know she'll just always go over to his house. She's 18 I can't really stop her. Do I forbid her to see him? Do I take away her phone, her car? Or do I simply just be there when he cheats again?
I feel it's hard to have any sort of relationship with her while she's with this guy. Do we just talk about things like her school and family and ignore the subject of him? She has been so family oriented her whole life, and loves to do family events, but there's no way I can include him. So do her sisters get to invite their boyfriends and I tell her no? I know that will push her further away, but maybe that's a chance I will have to take. Maybe she's needs to find out on her own, but it's so hard to sit by and watch it happen. It's so hard to watch your kids make awful decisions.
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